Redefine “Losing” or “Failure”
Something that we often aren’t told is the value in losing. We’re often told “There are no medals for 2nd place!” and similar mantras that are usually repeated by people who don’t understand that all of the most successful in got there because they failed more than 99% of people in their field.
Of course, losing never feels good and your keeper will be cut up for a while over it. It’s your job as a parent to listen to how they feel (see my first point) and then help them work out where they went wrong and how they can fix it in the future.
I’ll leave you with this quote from Michael Jordan – one of the most successful basketball players to have ever existed:
“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”